I am ENRAGED and I find myself somewhat in a dilemma…
I was on my way home from work…
While I was at a stop light, I noticed a truck beside me.
In the truck, was a couple arguing extremely loud.
Of course, I had my windows halfway down, the sunroof open and the radio blaring (yes I was singing and dancing out loud ). . .
I quickly but inconspicuously turned my music and voice down.
Not because I wanted to be nosy but because I did not want to be noticed.
They seemed to be pretty angry as voices were raised in harsh tones.
As the light changed, I drove a little slower so I would not have to see the shame on the face of the woman driving.
I know that feeling.
I have worn that same face.
All of a sudden I saw the man in the passenger side of the truck~
That “fella” backhanded the woman so hard the speed of the truck slowed down considerably.
Pushing her head halfway out the drivers side window of the truck , as well as sending her hair flying wildly about the air from the velocity and force of the mans hand.
The truck swerved unsteady across the center line.
The woman gained control of the vehicle and sped up a little.
I watched as the man turned to face the woman who was driving and he punched her STRAIGHT IN THE FUCKING FACE!!!!
I looked around at the cars surrounding them; me.
Was anyone else seeing this tragedy unfold ~ or was I alone in watching the physical abuse of a big fella as he slapped the woman yet again as the truck sped up ahead of me in the left lane???
Everyone else seemed oblivious.
I yelled the license plate number, the make, model, and color of the pickup to Siri.
I found myself gripping the steering wheel as if I were driving on ice.
Tears were rolling down my cheeks and smearing my mascara so I could hardly see.
I wanted to voice dial 911.
I was screaming in rage out loud and I did not even realize it until I saw them turn onto another highway.
SO MANY emotions are going through my mind right now as I sit parked in my driveway writing this post!!!
I WANT to call the police and report this piece of shit that THINKS he is a man.
I WANTED to save this woman who was going to have to be embarrassed by the marks and bruises I KNOW are going to be swelling up on her face ~ explaining to her peers, coworkers, family, and the public what she is going to PRETEND that happened.
All the while she will be shaming and questioning herself about what pissed HIM off so bad and what she REALLY wanted to do back to him as revenge. . .
WILL I be saving this woman if I call the police??
SOME of you are shouting out loud at my post “YES!!”
However, any one of you who have been in that same drivers seat as the woman, also is shouting out loud to this post “OH HELL NO!!”
It is a Catch-22 situation.
He might kill her after the police question him.
I know that shame and embarrassment.
She will probably feel even more as she tells the police (maybe) why she “allowed” him to physically harm her.
I understand that she has no real answer of why she has stayed so long.
I know the embarrassment and shying away from looking into the officers eyes as she tells them (maybe) “nothing happened.”
I know the fear of leaving and the fear of staying.
What I DO NOT know is what I should do for the safety of the woman and who else lives with her…
What I DO KNOW???
I do Not believe women are equal to men in muscle, size, or strength!
There is a BIG DIFFERENCE (no matter the size) between a mans punch compared to a woman’s punch.
We are the yen to your yang and vice verse!
The only thing I want to be equal to is respect, love, responsibilities in a relationship, a home, children (if there are any) and my fucking paycheck if we have the same education, experience and skill!!!
If you feel the need to call us names, demean us mentally or verbally or worse: feel the need to hit us even ever so lightly ~
IT IS NOT LOVE!!!
If a man is being physically, mentally or verbally abusive ~
IT IS NOT LOVE!!!
WHAT WOULD YOU DO????
I am sad for this woman.
I am ANGRY for this woman.
Pay attention to the signs of those who may be in an abusive relationship and reach out to them.,.